The following is an exact excerpt from the book Listening To Your Inner Voice by Douglas Bloch. I in no way possess any ownership of the following. I am simply sharing the thoughts, expressions and words of an author who has inspired me.
Moving Through Loss
The nature of the material world is impermanence. Everything that begins in time will end in time. Nothing lasts forever. To this extent, we all experience loss.
But the pain of loss does not have to create long-term suffering. If we embrace the pain and feel our grief, a remarkable thing happens - the pain gradually recedes. This is what is meant by the saying, "The only way out of the pain is to embrace the pain." It is when we attempt to avoid the pain that suffering arises.
Another approach to loss is to appreciate the joy that you gained from that which is now gone - whether it is a person, an animal, or a phase of life that just ended. As a child who lost his cat remarked, "I miss my kitty. I'm glad I had him though. I'm glad he had the chance to live here and be my friend."
Finally, realize that the essence of a material form, which is love, never dies. In this sense, there is no such thing as loss. This is why Christ left his disciples with his words, "I am with you always, even into the end of the world." In our lives as well, whatever we have loved can never leave us.
1. I allow myself to feel my feelings.
2. As I embrace my pain and sadness, I begin to feel better.
3. Although I grieve for what I lost, I know that a greater good will follow.
4. I am grateful that I had had the chance to love.
5. That which I love is always with me.
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